A wise friend once told me, “you don’t have to stop talking so much shit. You just have to stop talking shit to so many people.” And I’ve been trying to live by that
This is one of my favorite substacks by you guys! I 100% agree with the internet has made people operate with more black and white morality, really interesting to apply that to our understanding of gossip! Well done!
I greatly appreciate this take!! I have friends who I don’t feel I can trust because of the level and caliber of their gossip, but I think I have to take it a step further and consider why they feel safe gossiping to that degree with me. It feels mean spirited and I am definitely guilty of participating too far.
I had a friend group blow up because of gossip and while everyone stepped up and took accountability. No one was left unscathed and that dynamic has never been the same. I’ve just now accepted that it’s changed forever but I’m not sad about it anymore. It just is the case and I just learnt a really hard and good lesson about integrity and intention when running my mouth. Love this substack!!
Also yeah the “if you’re x person, y person said this” social media trend - that used to just be about cheating! And now it’s about anyyyything, which is insane
A wise friend once told me, “you don’t have to stop talking so much shit. You just have to stop talking shit to so many people.” And I’ve been trying to live by that
Lolol yes this
This is one of my favorite substacks by you guys! I 100% agree with the internet has made people operate with more black and white morality, really interesting to apply that to our understanding of gossip! Well done!
The "they had a right to know" genre of gossip is the worst kind
I greatly appreciate this take!! I have friends who I don’t feel I can trust because of the level and caliber of their gossip, but I think I have to take it a step further and consider why they feel safe gossiping to that degree with me. It feels mean spirited and I am definitely guilty of participating too far.
I had a friend group blow up because of gossip and while everyone stepped up and took accountability. No one was left unscathed and that dynamic has never been the same. I’ve just now accepted that it’s changed forever but I’m not sad about it anymore. It just is the case and I just learnt a really hard and good lesson about integrity and intention when running my mouth. Love this substack!!
Also yeah the “if you’re x person, y person said this” social media trend - that used to just be about cheating! And now it’s about anyyyything, which is insane